is it what you get from having abs? a relationship? lots of money?

of course you can get parts of confidence from these things, the problem i have with that way of thinking is that if there is anything you don’t have and if confidence is about having everything it makes it impossible and very pressurising thing to aspire to having unless you rewire what confidence is…

see i feel confidence is within everyones grasp if you look at it as a skill set… lets say you have what you perceive to have a dreadful body, well then confidence would be about practicing and drilling actions daily to make yourself have an attractive body or at least your idea of what your ideal body looks like, if its to have a business thats successful, well then that would be your daily task…. working a crowd or public speaking…

my point is if you want confidence in anything, recognise that you already own confidence in whatever it is that you are amazing at doing.. whatever that might be, everyone is amazing at something because if they are awful at something else its because they put less focus, time, energy, thought and practice in…

confidence comes from the daily grind of working on whatever it is you lack in confidence so that you become confident in it, and confidence is also in knowing and recognising the things that you already are awesome at…